Idealization And Underestimation In Psychism
Idealization And Underestimation In Psyche Idealization means that I consider you omnipotent. I have the need to see you like this so I put you in such a position inside me where you can save me from my fears and above all of course from death which I am very afraid of. It is an infantile attitude which remains to some extent in life. We see this very strongly when a new member comes to a group. If one observes carefully, the pre-existing members are pinning their hopes on this new member for a while. Until of course they see that he is not the savior we are all waiting for.
One idealizes when he is forbidden to unpin the other (and there we expect anger to arise), secondly when the person is very immature and thirdly and more commonly when the fear of death becomes too great internally so you look for the savior as we said. Believers find him in the deity, children in parents, workers in employers, citizens in the state, and so on. It is a human need to find a guide, a mentor. Someone who can frame, set rules. This is how one feels safe.
Idealization And Underestimation In Psychism – The Meaning Of Underestimation
But in the psyche there are a lot of dipoles. Here at the other end of the thread we will find the understatement. In the most pathological states, devaluation succeeds idealization with rapid and sudden alternations. And devaluation and idealization and their alternations, regardless of whether they are within a pathological spectrum, are nothing more than louder or softer cries of anguish. If you keep me I have you as a god but I fear you will leave me and I underestimate you.
Idealization And Underestimation In Psychism
Idealization And Underestimation In Psychism
Then you hold me, that is you continue, I realize that you didn’t leave me and that’s when I start feeling guilty. Contrary to popular belief, guilt is a sign of normal development. I feel guilty for attacking you and now I cry with you. If you can cry with me, I apologize and we work through this guilt together. And so we live together with our mistakes and endure. This is a path of normal development. The normal person will see his own mistakes somewhere in this world. People, communities, and systems that place all the responsibilities on others are far beyond normal development and stand in the way of the development of cooperative relations between societies.
The process of psychotherapy requires commitment, dedication and is addressed only to those who seriously see that they need to change their lives. If you are thinking of starting this journey, please call me at 211 71 51 801 to make an appointment and let’s see together how I can help you.
Mixalis Paterakis
Psychologist Psychotherapist
University of Indianapolis University of Middlesex
Karneadou 37, Kolonaki (next to Evangelismos)
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Psychologist Psychotherapist
“healing means trying to understand oneself. To understand him. To find out why he hates, why he has low self-esteem, why he can’t love, in short to see where all this comes from…”
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